Recently I read a post from Sandra at Absolutely Narcissism. It’s about starting a new revolution about fitness. It spoke to me deeply and I wanted to share her post (with permission of course!) with our Just.Be.Enough community.
I strongly recommend reading her post, but if you don’t have the time, I’ll summarize:
We women shouldn’t beat ourselves up over not looking like a perfectly sculpted, hard-bodied woman. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t engage in fitness, however.
We should!
But our lives are often busy, complicated and filled with responsibilities that prevent us from taking on a fitness regime that is both unrealistic and unattainable.
Toward the end, Sandra shares this:
Once and for all, let’s stop sensationalizing bodies that clearly look the way they do because of LOADS of hard work and determination; hours at the gym; very regimented diets; hard work and discipline that is admirable, yes; but normal and conducive to the average North American’s lifestyle? Absolutely not.
Uh, yes. Can I get an AMEN to this?
Do you remember in June when I laid out my goals for the summer?
One of those goals had me going from “couch to 5k,” which is essentially progressing from non-runner to status to running the distance of a 5k.
It’s a 9-week training process.
Well, it’s taken me a little more than 9 weeks (12 if we’re counting), but this week I have achieved my goal. I can now run 30 minutes straight, without stopping and without dying.
I am so proud of myself! It’s been hard as hell and that is no understatement! It’s one of the reasons it’s taken 12 weeks instead of 9. There were weeks where I was so terrified to step it up to the next level I stayed at my current level an extra week.
But.I.did.it. And darnit – I should be proud of myself! I did it during the summer, with the kids at home and being a seemingly endless shuttle service for them and their activities and social lives.
And guess what? I don’t LOOK any different.
I don’t look hotter.
I don’t look hard-bodied.
I don’t even think I’ve lost any weight!
And I might have even picked up some acne from the sweating. Arguably, my physical looks have deteriorated a bit from my training.
But should I let that ruin my pride? That I accomplished something major this summer? Something that, no lie, I never thought I’d be able to do?
Should I be less happy or fulfilled because it didn’t turn me into a hard body?
No!
I should absolutely feel proud of my accomplishment. And like Sandra said, I’ve done something that’s made me a better person, that fits in with my “normal American lifestyle,” has made me feel more like a woman, and is TOTALLY ENOUGH for my life.
Kudos to me.


















Love this! I am so hard on myself when it comes to body image and fitness goals. I compare myself to other people – especially busy moms with kids who still manage to work out. I know I need to give myself a break and be realistic, but it’s hard to remember.
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I love this! I have been working on the C25K since JANUARY. I stopped due to the insane heat in NC, but I still feel good about what I have done, and you are so right about how you should be proud and feel amazing! I am excited for you.
Woo hoo!
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You rock! That’s a great milestone to meet.
It’s hard to separate fitness from the way we look; I have a really difficult time with it and have setbacks all the time

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Congrats! I remember that moment during the couch to 5k where it said you had to run for 26 minutes straight and I did it and I never wanted to stop. I was so proud of accomplishing something I never thought possible, and I wasn’t even done with the training program.
That experience has pushed me to try new things, push myself harder (when the whining I can’t do this starts) and I am amazed at how far I have come in so short a time.
Keep up the good work and yes, be proud!
Jacki (@JackiRHayes) recently posted..Live Like You Are Grateful
Congrats to you friend! Although I do regularly exercise, you are inspiring me to set an actual fitness goal! Great work on YOU!

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Great post – I was JUST wondering how your couch to 5k went. It is fabulous that you achieved your goal. Absolutely fabulous. Everyday I look in the mirror and get the “ughs” I need to lose weight, look better, blah blah blah. This post reminded me to chill out a bit. Thank you!
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First of all, I giggled when you wrote the bit about geting acne…lol! I can relate, I get this horrible heat rash on my neck. But Missy, I’m so so so proud of you, that is a HUGE accomplishment, I DO NOT run 30 minutes without stopping…unless I’m being chased by a dog, and even then, I can’t be certain. Congrats! And thank you for mentioning my piece. I am truly honoured.
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Good for you! Starting running is by far the hardest part. You have every right to feel crazy proud of yourself!
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I love this! I have been running semi-consistently for the past two years. My calves look amazing – the rest of me has not caught up! Being thin is hard work for most people, but being fit whether you look it or not, is not as bad and so worthwhile. I may not look any thinner than I did a couple of years ago, but I can keep up with my kids better, I have a little more energy (depending on how much sleep the 4yo lets me get!) and I know I’m healthier. And that is what matters to me.
Laurie recently posted..Summer Fail
Wait, how have I not read this post until now?? Missy!! That’s huge! You have so much to be proud of and that’s a huge accomplishment. I completely agree with you that we should stop beating ourselves up by holding up these unrealistic goals. There’s so much out there in the media (and blogs and Pinterest) that perpetuate this and that’s not fair. You did this for you and that’s most important. Are you going to keep running

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