There are very few people who are as honest, funny, and open about being who they are as Jill Smoker, also known to many as Scary Mommy.
Jill shares stories, moments, and reflections on life on her incredibly successful site and has recently published her first book. Jill embodies the Be Enough lifestyle with humor and acceptance. She is a woman that understands her strengths, accepts herself for the good and the bad, and lives each day knowing that sometimes you can only do so much.
So it was my thrill to be able to interview her to get her perspective on being enough.
Elena: You are pretty open about accepting life and yourself as you are. You write “nothing can be lost by admitting our weaknesses and imperfections to one another.” Which of course is exactly what Just.Be.Enough. is all about. But that acceptance is so hard for so many women. What do you do when you start to feel weighed down by weakness to help yourself feel strong again?
Jill: I often find myself reassessing my life and taking stock in what’s important. Recently, I’ve been semi-obsessed with the success of the book. I got to a point where it was pretty much consuming me and taking away from more important parts of my life, so I made an effort to step back. Sure, having a #1 NYT bestseller would be amazing, but not at the cost of my children and husband. I’d rather be present for them than concentrating on book sales 24/7. Of course, I have to remind myself of this fact daily.
Do you have a role model that has helped you see the importance of being yourself and sharing your imperfections with pride? Who?
I have lots of role models in my life, but as far as really embracing my imperfections, I think I arrived to that place on my own. I always found perfection to be pretty overrated.
You mentioned that one of the things you enjoy about blogging is that you view your posts as facilitators for the discussion that takes place in the comments. What suggestions would you give to someone looking to facilitate more discussion and community?
Online, I think the more honest you are, the more people will respond. Put yourself out there and interact with your readers. Read other blogs and find new people that way. It’s really pretty easy.
Unfortunately, in real life, we aren’t rewarded the same way for brutal honesty. Finding a sense of community is so much harder than it should be.
While you may not be doing design like you were before kids, I would call you a dream chaser for having created something and nurtured it to where you, the site, and the book are today. What other dreams might you want to tackle in the next 10 years?
A dream chaser – I love that!! Honestly, what I’m doing today is beyond what I ever thought was possible, so it’s hard for me to think about 10 years down the line. Success for me is not having to work for anyone other than myself, so that’s always my goal. A better paycheck would be awesome, too.
The truth is that we could all add some Scary Mommy into our Be Enough journeys: Understanding that imperfections are like battle scars. Celebrating what makes us unique instead of competing to be the same (or better) than the woman who lives a few doors down. Taking pride in that we are who we are.
Jill’s book, a favorite among women everywhere already, is up for grabs for ONE of our lucky Just.Be.Enough. readers.
To enter: Leave a comment, inspired by Jill’s comment that she is taking stock in what is important.
Extra entries: (leave a comment for each): tweet (once a day max): “Have you heard? @ScaryMommy is visiting @JustBeEnough. Being a Scary Mommy is More Than Enough http://bit.ly/Knj7Zy”
The giveaway will end on Monday, May 7th at 11:59 pm ET. The winner will be chosen using random.org and will be emailed. If no response is received within 24 hours, a new winner will be selected.
I received a copy of Confessions of a Scary Mommy for the purpose of review. No compensation was received. All opinions are my own.