Friday, Friday, Friday. We love our Fridays at Just.Be.Enough. because they’re the day we get to share the voice of someone magnificent. Someone that has a Just.Be.Enough. story that inspires and causes us to nod our heads. This week, it is my pleasure to introduce Galit of These Little Waves. I could probably write an entire post on the skill and grace with which Galit writes, but I won’t. I could write an entire post on how supportive Galit is of other bloggers and writers with her comments and her tweeting, but I won’t. Instead, I leave you with the words of this truly gifted writer sharing her own Just.Be.Enough. story.
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The sweet scent of hazelnut welcomes me in. The circular table in the middle of the room is covered with a plastic tablecloth – forest green edged with red apples. The off white walls are kissed with encouraging words and sweet mother-child photos. Everything in this room screams School! And family! And welcome!
Our parent educator is new. Her smile, deeply lipsticked, is wide and her lesson plan, penciled onto a yellow tablet, is what she’s reading as we filter in. We’ve left our children next door in the capable hands of teachers whose tone and presence and being are comforting.
In “The Mommy Room” we circle each other with “Nice to meet yous” and “Excuse mes.” We smile and introduce and find spots to fill. In here we are bare – there is no one in our laps or holding our hands or asking for juice.
This class, like every other early childhood class that I’ve taken for the last seven years, starts with introductions- our name, who we live with, and something interesting.
My mind swirls with thoughts of writing and blogging and posting.
I have my tale, my something interesting, written in my mind. This is where my thoughts start- I see the writing, edit the pencil strokes, prepare my words.
And then, I tune into these other mothers’ stories.
This one has many pets. That one’s daughter was a preemie. These two are neighbors. I still fit here.
Then I hear, “I wrote a book.”
And then, “I work with cancer patients.”
Followed by, “I can lift cars.”
No, that last one isn’t really true.
But the first two are and they silence me. Instead of seeing the wow in these women, I see what I am not.
Oh my, that is humbling to see right there in black and white. But it is, indeed, how I feel.
And I’d like to tell you that when it was my turn I got over myself and spoke freely with truth and transparency and wild abandon. But I’m a terrible liar, so I won’t.
I shared something safe -and unmemorable- about moving to Minnesota from California and still not being used to winters. We all laughed and commiserated and moved on. Not a single piece of my heart was laid bare.
The rest of the class was dedicated to business. We talked syllabuses and snacks and reading materials and at the very end, right before we reunited with our little ones- breathed them in, held them close, better for having had a break- the teacher stood in front of the group. She smoothed her shirt. Her jewelry glistened silver against her slacks and her cheeks flushed bright pink.
What she was about to share was important to her, important to all of us.
“Right now what we know about each other is small and what we have hidden from each other is big. The more that we share, these will flip flop and we will trust each other, really know each other, and really learn about each other- and ourselves.”
And damn if I didn’t feel like she was talking directly to me. I let her words in, allowed them to marinate in my heart. And then, I dared peek around the room.
What I saw in every single pair of eyes that I looked directly into is that they all heard, and felt, these words. I saw it in their uncrossed arms and raised cheeks and eye crinkles, and I knew it was true.
We all have our stories. We just need to tell them, and trust that they will be heard.
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Isn’t she inspiring and gifted?


















Thank you so very much for having me here, Elena! Your style and grace? Is incomparable! XO
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Galit, you have captured the way I often feel when I am around other moms. Not good enough, but getting there. We’re all a work in progress, and I’m sure every other woman in that room felt the same way. Thank you for sharing your story.
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Thank you so much for your words Holly. It doesn’t surprise me in the least that you get me here! XO
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I could imagine myself being in that room with you and the others, and doing exactly as you had done when it’s my turn. Being an extreme introvert (uh huh, can’t you tell?!?), I found it difficult enough to simply ‘talk’ to people that I’m not familiar with. Opening up myself or talking about something personal would have been impossible for me, especially upon first meeting.
I also know that as much as I like to use the excuse that I’m just an introvert, a lot of it has to do with fear of rejection and my insecurities about not being good enough if compared to others. It’s a constant struggle, one that I have to continue to battle. I hope that Just Be Enough message, and those words by Elena, could be heard by more and more people out there, because we ALL desperately need to look into ourselves and ‘force’ ourselves to focus on the positives. It’s a message that needs to be repeated over and over again. And I sincerely hope that as the result, we would all be kinder and more loving to ourselves.
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Yes, this. Exactly this. My husband has teased me about me “introvert excuse.” Ouch, right? But really quite true at times. I adore your words- they are perfect. Thank you friend! XO
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Wow, I did this same thing at our parent sharing for this year’s toddler class. I wish our teacher had said the brilliant words yours did. But mostly I wish I’d been able to open up. It’s hard until we have that trust. I think that’s one reason so many of us gravitate here to the blogosphere – we trust each other and open up a little more readily. Now to translate that to real life… Lovely post, as always, Galit!
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Oops – I didn’t really mean to “real life.” I meant to translate that to in-person, face-to-face interactions and friendships!
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I knew exactly what you meant girlfriend! Thank you for your words- and wowsa! I couldn’t possibly agree more! XO
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Oh this is perfectly captured and exactly how I feel in these situations. Lovely words, Galit.
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Thank you friend- so very much! XO
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Galit, you weave words like silk….capturing all. You are so right…we all have a story just waiting to be told to trusting ears & hearts. Thank you for sharing a piece of yours! xoxo
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Thank you so very much my dear friend! XO
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I love that the parent educator knew this; that she said it out loud:
What we know about each other is small; what we have hidden is big.
Wow. If that isn’t pretty much true about life across the board, I don’t know what it.
In that moment, she freed you all up to acknowledge the truth of it.
And to consider sharing more of yourself in the future.
Because you all have that in common. We ALL do.
We just need to learn to trust others more with the stuff we so carefully hide.
And we need to learn to trust ourselves more, too.
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Agreed Julie! So very agreed! I love what she said and it struck me so hard, you know? Thank you for your words- I love them, as always! XO
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I’ve not been in a similar situation – yet. I do know however that when my time comes, I’ll probably feel the way you did, act the way you did. I’m so glad the teacher spoke the words she did, she’s a wise one. As you are. Thank you for sharing your beautiful words here, Galit.
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Thank you, Alison, so much! And agreed- so, so wise. XO
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If I’m being honest this is how I feel in blogland lately….like we all have something to say, but I have nothing..no book, no big following, nothing special about me…but then once in a while, I tell a story and it reaches people, it brings me words from other people who feel the same, hear the same, tell me their own story.
I try to remind myself OFTEN that my story is valuable, and so is everyone else’s, it’s in the TELLING that we free ourselves from the feeling of unworthiness. Thank you for reminding me , once again. What a fantastic piece to share with us.
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Oh sweet Kir, yes! You *so* have something to say, to share. And you know what else? I’m always listening! XO
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I feel you Kir. I wonder sometimes if anyone cares what I say. Then I write something that I know matters. My story. And even if no one reads it I know its good. We all have those feelings I guess but I love that we, each one of us ARE ENOUGH.
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Julie? I care what you have to say. So there!
Thanks so much for the note! XO
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I love you Galit! You always manage to put a smile on my face.
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Oh, I would have immediately gone to the same place you did. My story suddenly would not have been good enough at all, and I’d close up. It’s what I’ve done all my life.
I’ll be honest – I’m glad you didn’t lie. I’m glad you’re so relatable here. That’s what this is all about – not so much saying “I did this!” but rather sharing our self-doubts, our feelings of not-enough, and encouraging each other.
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Oh girl, I’m so with you- all of this beauty and power and connectivity would be completely lost if we started lying! I love knowing that I can just be a work in progress- with all of you holding my hand through the process! Thanks for your words, friend! XO
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This is so beautiful. And it’s so true- we all have our stories. We can’t go by one or two facts we learn about each other. Or try to define ourselves by so little either.
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What I’ve learned about you Shell is that you have the uncanny ability to make every word count- say so much with so little. Thank you, and yes- that. Exactly that. XO
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*Deep sigh* This resonates within me. How many times to I fail to tell what aches to be told for fear that no one will hear or that someone else’s story is more important. Worse, how often do I see my own short comings and miss out on the “wow” of the wonderful women around me. Thank you for putting words to this theme in my life. Inspired!
Thank you so, so much for your kind, connecting words- I so appreciate it!
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That was beautiful. Galit always knows how to make me cry. I always wish it were easier to share my story, but it seems that fear of ridicule and judgement is stronger than my desire to share. It’s a good reminder that most of us feel the exact same way.
Yes, this. You just did exactly this for me, Thank you girl- I owe you one! XO
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The urge to have our stories heard: I believe that is universal and I could talk on that forever.
Thank you for being here, Galit, and supporting JustBEEnough.
The most excellent Just Be Enough.
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Excellent, indeed! Thank you friend, truly. XO
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Your words are lovely and strewn together with the ease of honesty.

So many of us have felt this way… yet the first instinct (at least for me) is to hide more than I share. At least in real life – writing is different.
Working on that one.
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Indeed, writing is different. Ever there I hold back sometimes, but that’s much more rare than in person. Thank you Jenni- for your comment and words and solidarity. XO
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I love this. It made me tearful in all the right ways. Thank you.
You’re welcome. And thank you. {Truly.} XO
Galit Breen recently posted..Just Be Enough
I absolutely love that teacher’s message that evening. Little by little, the stories are shared.
Galit is freakin’ amazing. I am so inspired and touched by everything she says and writes.
You? I love. That is all. XO
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She is just so right. I know we have all done this. It’s okay. We wait until we feel safe to open up. As long as we finally DO open up….then life will open up for us. Thx.
Sandra
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Oh my do I love that way you ended that! Indeed, “then life will open up.” Gorgeous! Thank you for your words! XO
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This is what I love about Galit. She takes something that everyone can relate to and she decorates it up with her words, and makes everyone tear up because she’s tugged at their heartstrings. Yeah, I know this place too. I know that I isolate myself much more than I probably should, and I am dealing with my own struggles to be enough to myself. Having a hearing loss, and past experiences (negative ones at that) have really made me shun from any type of group, and honestly, most types of face to face interactions. I’m working on it. I promise.
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Me too woman, me too. Thank you for chiming in. i like the idea of facing this fear -or whatever it is- shoulder-to-shoulder with you! XO
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I got chills at the end of this because I was picturing myself in that room and thinking of how I try to value all the other moms in my life, in some way.
I wrote a post a few months ago about a mom that I did not know that well, but encountered often, and I couldn’t decide if she was nice or not, basically. I decided I did not know her story or what her life was like and just decided to be nice to her no matter what.
I love those words from the teacher and I’m really surprised she spoke them then, actually…
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I know, I know! I think she rocked that first class! Especially being new to the district where many of us have taken classes for SO long! There’s a name for what she described {I think} it’s called Johari’s Window and I’m so going to write more about it!
Also? It doesn’t surprise me in the least that you decided that kindness wins. And I love you for it! XO
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” Instead of seeing the wow in these women, I see what I am not.”
I must confess, Galit, that this is exactly, precisely what I felt when I stumbled upon your writing last night via Twitter. I tried to pretend otherwise, I retweeted and praised you and meant it with all my being but deep down I was also feeling all the things I am not, or maybe all the things I once was that have been obscured by motherhood and growing up and daily life.
So thank you for sharing this. You should know that you’ve inspired one tired mommy to take a deep breath and pick up a pen again and write something real.
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Oh my Alyssa, your words are so very humbling. Thank you, truly. It’s amazing to me that we all feel this, but we forget and then feel isolated. Ugh. I’m so glad that we crossed paths {Kismet, yes?}! XO
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There is such wisdom in the teacher’s words! Thank you for sharing, Galit! The part about sharing more, learning more of others – and of ourselves resonates particularly with me. It’s difficult sometimes to find the line between myself and the kids, but it’s so important that I do in order to be a better mother. Talking about it honestly helps.
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Thank you so much for your note! And yes, I know exactly what you mean about that blurred line! Thanks again- so much!
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Galit, I love your words, as always. This is a favourite theme of mine – the masks we wear. And she’s right – we take them off, slowly but surely, and when we do we learn not only about others but about ourselves.
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You my dear? Are so, so wise! Thank you for your note, I so appreciate hearing from *you!* XO
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How lucky you are to have a teacher for your little one who is so insightful. I find it difficult to open up to other parents so quickly and I think it is such a shame. We all have so many of the same hopes and fears. I will definitely keep this post in mind when interacting with other parents…hopefully it will help me be less afraid about bringing up my truth. Because I truly believe that’s how we find others to help, support and sustain us.
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Thank you so much for your note, your words, and your insight! Wow, do I ever love what you wrote our truths- so wise!!
Galit Breen recently posted..Just Be Enough
You, my friend, are an inspiration. I know that feeling, of feeling my accomplishments shrink to nothing in my mind, seem so very small next to the great, beautiful things that others have done, are doing.
I love that the teacher reminded you that we ALL brings gifts and value to this interconnected life of ours, and we need to open ourselves up to all the stories to see their beauty, including our own.
So, so very true! And thank you- truly! XO
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Perfection, my dear friend…perfection.
We have all been in The Mommy Room in so many forms. And we all feel this way, whether we show it on the outside or not.
I love this, you know that. And I feel it in my bones, just like you do. But we are enough…
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Love you for your words. {But you already knew that.} XO
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Galit, this is wonderful! It’s incredibly difficult to bare your soul in those situations. In group psychology they break down group dynamics into forming, norming, storming, and performing. Those first two stages are hard! Xo
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Thank you so very much for your insight- I always love what you bring to the table, friend- a whole lot of heart wrapped up in some serious SMARTS! XO
Galit Breen recently posted..Just Be Enough
Ahhh, Galit… Always one of my favorites. Her posts are always a breath of fresh air. I’m glad you didn’t feel you were the only one singled out by the teacher’s announcement. I think first-day jitters affect us all in different ways. It’s hard to trust so much so soon, but this journey that you are all on together will lead you to realize so many things about yourselves and each other, and I’m sure that if we check in in a few months time, your admissions might be a bit more revealing, open, and honest. It’s only natural!
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Thank you girlfriend, so much. And yes, you’re right all of the trust and openness does take time {more for some than others!}! Thank you for being here- it means so much to me! XO
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Oh this was so perfectly captured. This is exactly how I feel whenever I am with other moms. I always feel as though I’m not good enough, my story isn’t deep enough, my accomplishments aren’t high enough. I tend to do the same as you, close up and not let anyone in. But, we need to trust more not only in other people but in ourselves as well.
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Yes, this. Exactly this. It doesn’t surprise me in the least that we see this in the same way! Thanks Kim, so much. XO
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Oh I can so relate to this post, Galit that you had so beautifully written. I was that uncomfortable Mommy in the parents orientation when my son started kindergarten mostly because I feel like I would be judge for being a single mom in the sea of couples and married moms. It was awkward, really awkward but then I realized the point is I’m there for my son. My priority. I did made some friends not much but it still feel awkward. Thanks for sharing this!
Thank you for sharing a slice of your story, too. I’m listening.

Galit Breen recently posted..Just Be Enough
Galit, I can’t think of a thing you’ve written that didn’t knock my socks off and this was no exception. It’s amazing how shy we can be in a circle of strangers. I have no problems whatsoever singing a solo or being ridiculous on-stage to make an audience laugh. But those introductory circles always make me nervous. I don’t want to sound frivolous, but I also don’t want to sound like I’m bragging so I end up saying something really lame.
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I’m so with you, sister!
{Also? How did I not know that you’re a performer??}
Thank you so very much for your words and solidarity! XO
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Galit,
I want to go in that room and introduce the you *I* see. The accomplished, giving, biggest-heart-in-the-twitterverse woman and Mom and friend. These women will feel honored to know you, toot your own horn! Especially to yourself.
Thank you- so, so much. Your words are so kind, so humbling, so generous.
I’m going to stop there, okay?
But thank you- truly. XO
Galit Breen recently posted..Playing, Just Playing
I just experienced the same thing the night you wrote this post. I was at a “mom’s night out” with a group of new to me women.
Because I am extrovert, I get the opposite, nervous chatter. I drove away that night, cheeks burning, going over evey dumb thing that my mouth seemed to utter without my brain being involved.
We are all so very alike, dealing with our fear of not being enough, in our own ways. Never trusting ourselves or each other. Feeling like we are the only ones.
Thanks for sharing, as always, a glimpse of you and the common experience of being a woman and mom, through your beautiful words!
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Tasha, I so love your words. i always feel so connected when I read your words- so kind, so connecting! Thank you for this. It’s nice to be reminded of how very similar we all are! XO
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I hope as the year goes on that you open up more with these ladies. You have a lot to share and really are an amazing person.
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Thank you girlfriend. So, so very much. XO
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Hi Galit,
Thank you for sharing this post. It is so hard to let down your guard and share sometimes, I am guilty of that as well — but you are right, our stories are worthy to be told and cherished.
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Thank you so much for your words. I love what you wrote at the end there- Cherish is such a lovely word, isn’t it? Thanks again!
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