Around the time I turned 13 my best girlfriend at the time introduced me to a book. The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein.
If you’re not familiar with it, the book is about a little boy and a tree. The tree, through the years, offers the boy playtime, comfort, shade and then later means of a living; sacrificing parts of itself little by little for the boy’s good and finally, in the end, having just a stump of itself left offering the old man that boy has become a quiet place to rest.
If you’ve never read it I encourage you to, because although I believe its intent is younger people there is a lot us older people can gain from it. I mean who hasn’t felt like that tree at least once in their life?
I hadn’t thought about that book with its apple green cover in a long time, but lately it’s been popping into my mind often. The tree reminding me of my different roles in life: Wife, Mom, Daughter, Friend, Writer, Employee. With each day a small part of me is given, offered, sometimes sacrificed for the greater good of someone else. The simple act of giving being more than enough, but sometimes I wonder if in all the giving I lose parts of myself in the process.
I am a giver by nature; and this is after all, the season of it. It is a special magical time of the year for me, when the presents are wrapped in shiny, colorful paper and eyes widen as the gift is revealed. My own eyes sparkling with happiness at the joy it brings. There is nothing that gives me more pleasure than knowing that some small part of me is the reason for someone else’s smile.
Then there are some days that I need a smile, a place to rest or a moment of shade and I look to others and their trees to dispense their branches to me. There is great truth in the saying that “In giving we receive” and I see it all around me as I navigate through my life trying to play my roles every day, sometimes we just need each other.
That is why on a daily basis, when there are not chestnuts roasting or jingle bells ringing, I realize that as a mom, a friend and a wife I have become that tree. A branch here, an apple there or a small pike of leaves in an effort to help others grow, flourish and reach their greatest heights. It is a worthy and happy depletion for me watching them hang out in the shade and comfort of my love. While I could be selfish with my own special qualities, I think it is the act of sharing them that allows my own heart to take root and nourish those other trees.
So that when I am down to my own stump and sure I have nothing left to give, I remember that even that small stump can offer a little something to someone while I work on my own flourishing.
Remember if you have love in your heart, there is always something to give.
Hoping your Holidays are Happy & Healthy this year.
xo
Kir
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You are a truly giving soul, Kir. Your loved ones are blessed indeed.
Alison@Mama Wants This recently posted..Tutus and Ruffles….
I have no words for how much YOU Give to my life. thank you for giving so much this year, for offering me your friendship and being part of the roots of my tree! xo
Kir recently posted..Giving & Receiving
I remember this book from when I was a kid. Such a great story. You are very good at giving Kir. You have the biggest heart of anyone I know online.
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That is such a nice thing to say to me…because I call you my “FAIRY TECHMOTHER!” and am so glad to have a friend in you. thank you for this wonderful comment and for being so good to me all the time..GIVING Of yourself, being a “Tree” for me.
I always loved that book. And I can so identify with that sense of excitement when giving gifts. I love receiving a present just as much as the next person…but giving someone a gift…seeing their face light up with joy? That’s worth it every time. Hope you have a wonderful holiday with your beautiful family!
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HI Courtney, I am so glad that you are KINDRED SPIRIT in the gift giving department, isn’t it amazing to light those faces light up??? I wish you a beautiful holiday season my friend, so glad I got to call you a friend this year (and did you get the DM I sent about a week ago? I will email again!!)
Kir recently posted..Giving & Receiving
I love this book and often identify it to adult like issues. I have been a recipient of the gift of your friendship, and I am truly honored by it. Your friendship and support to me and others has taken root in so many things….giving back to so many. xo
I think you’re confusing ME with yourself
Because every word of this comment reminds me of you…you have given me JBE and let me be a PART of this amazing community. IT is one of my “Favorite presents” this year…your friendship, your mentoring, your love and support. I literally can’t THANK YOU enough for every single bit of it my friend.
xoxo
Kir recently posted..Giving & Receiving
Awww, such a nice comparison to one of my favorite books! A friend got it for me as a college graduation present. I love the book – and you are right – it has huge meaning as an adult. Here’s to all of us who are giving trees!
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YES!!!! I’m so excited to welcome you here to JBE and know that you are going to be sharing your words here. I adore you.
I think you are one of the nicest “Giving Trees” I know….xo
Kir recently posted..Giving & Receiving
That book has such powerful words for both being the giver and being the appreciative receiver. Most of us definitely take on both roles at some point in our lives. As mothers, we’re often more the giver, but in that giving, we find joy and contentment. Your words bring a powerful message to life. Great way to start my day

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HI…
I’m so glad you saw it that way, when I started thinking about GIVING and how it related not just to the Holidays but to every day…I’m so glad this book and it’s comparison are making people smile and see the connection.
I am so happy that I started your day with a smile. Truly.
Happy Holidays
Kir recently posted..Giving & Receiving
I love that story. My copy is all dog-eared and sad, but the story inside is as perfect as ever.
And you? Well, you are just a warm light where ever you do. It’s a pleasure and a privilege to have you in my life. Enjoy all the spotlights on you today, Kir. I can’t think of anyone who deserves it more.
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I really don’t have any words beyond thank you…truly. I will keep this comment in my heart all year long. Just know that the feeling is mutual and I’m so glad that 2011 brought you, your words, your wisdom and your wit into my world.I am BETTER for all of it.
xo
Kir recently posted..Giving & Receiving
Oh my friend! You are absolutely like that tree, and your gifts are enjoyed so much by those around you. I love this post so much. We have a copy of The Giving Tree, and I think Abbey thinks I’m nuts as I get all teary about it. (Also, we have a CD with S.S. reading it-amazing, truly.)
xo
I get teary too…so teary, the older I get the more I know that being that tree is a true gift. Just like you are. I know that you are standing next to me, our roots intermingled and nurturing each other as we flourish..that image makes me so proud and happy. This year gave me the amazing gift of your friendship and as I wrap my gifts I remember that the ones I am receiving do not come in pretty paper but land on my doorstep every single day in beautiful words, phone calls, laughter shared. Your friendship is MY FAVORITE gift this year. xoxo
Kir recently posted..Giving & Receiving
I love this comparison and thinking of the very different beauty a tree can offer in every season.
Wishing you a wonderful Christmas and I hope that you too will receive a gift to make your eyes sparkle!
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Hi Tania,
thank you so much for this beautiful comment, it warms my heart.
Wishing you a beautiful Holiday Season, one filled with gorgeous surprises

Kir recently posted..Giving & Receiving
My girls love that book! I choose that book to read to them when I feel overwhelmed sometimes and it brings me back to reality and that I may not be able to do it all but what I do for my family and friends I can do very well when I open my heart to live just like your post said.
Reading this post was a great way to start a Monday morning with one week before Christmas. Gave me some clarity! Thank you!
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HI Kristen!!
I think that’s the point isn’t it? To stop :”TRYING” to be all those things and understand that we already are..we will have the resources when we need them? At least that is they way I approach it, that when the need arises I will have what I need to help.
thank you for this comment, your support, your friendship..all of them mean so much to me. MERRY CHRISTMAS to you.
Kir recently posted..Giving & Receiving
I’m a big fan of Shel Silverstein but The Giving Tree has probably always been my least favorite book of his – mainly because the boy never seems to appreciate all that the tree has given him. He just keeps taking and taking from it until finally there’s nothing left to take. So then he just sits down on it. And even then he STILL doesn’t seem very appreciative. That always irked me.
Nevertheless, the book’s message is a good one, and so is yours. You are such a giving soul, Kir, and this post reflects that. I just hope those to whom you give of yourself are more appreciative than the little boy in the book. I wish everyone was, in fact.
Kristin @ What She Said recently posted..Enough for Today
I have never read that book before, but Kir, this is one of my favorite post of yours! YOU have been like that tree, to me. You have given me something to smile about with your friendship and visits to my blog.
You’ve really inspired me (and I’m sure countless others) to not only give to others, but to realize that however little we might think we have, there’s always something we can give to others. And it doesn’t have to be material things, it could be the gift of a smile, a warm hug, friendship, or even a few comforting words.
Thank you for everything, dear Kirsten!
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My GOODNESS Kir…. Each time I read a piece of yours….my goodness!!!! I am blown away by this pieces romantic, flowing beauty. In between the beautifully chosen words and smooth flowing sentences there is this amazing message. When I began reading this post I was instantly brought back to a time in my life when I read this book, how did I feel, what message did it leave me with. Then I felt guilty because I have not given enough this holiday season and then you did it!You took me to your place…your beautiful heart and you reminded me that I have that place too! The place where I recognize the small things and make a difference, no matter how small! Beautiful Sweetie!!! MWAH
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What a great analogy! I love that book. It’s so calming.
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I love your perspective on this book, Kir. I struggle with it. On the one hand, it’s a beautiful story. But on the other, I don’t want me or my children to be either character. But your read of it is different and beautiful. Thanks for sharing!
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