Open your eyes. Look around. Where are you?
On my journey to live and breathe being a Walking, Talking Possibility, I have found certain things have to be in place before I can be me. Some of it is work and some requires simply shifting my perspective. What I have found is that somehow I accumulate stuff that clouds my path or distorts my reality. This “stuff” is not material but usually beliefs or people who are giving me a different message than the one I need to be hearing.
Mentally preparing for a journey is just as important as getting the necessary supplies you will need to keep you going.
This is how I do it:
Step 1: Scrape off the stuff that doesn’t work
Sometimes in our lives people become attached to us. Sometimes it is a friend or perhaps even a partner/lover. These relationships have the potential of being the pillars of support you need to go higher than you have ever gone. Other times, they are the weights around your neck, the albatross that won’t let you take a step further. I like to think that my life is like an exclusive club with bouncers at the door and people are lined up behind the red velvet rope to get in. The bouncers are my boundaries. These bouncers have specific instructions for who gets in:
1. Is this person healthy? (i.e. no apparent addictions, no major drama in their lives)
2. Does this person add or subtract from my life? I’m not talking about being a taker but you know there are people who are such amazing additions to your life and others who are there to suck the marrow from your bones. I prefer the former.
3. Is this person a source of joy and growth or pain and suffering? Sometimes people may sneak past the ropes because they seem like an asset and then turn into a constant attempt to get someone out of the same hole/rut. If you find that your “friend” keeps having the same issue despite working with them and talking to them for a long time, you may need to scrape them off. These people are what I affectionately call “energy sucks.” This doesn’t need to be permanent but the reality is that you can only do so much before their issues weigh on you.
Step 2: Look where I am
It is only in the here and now that we feel happiness, joy and love. When we spend our time looking back or into an unknown future the only things we are feeling are regret and anxiety. Expectations and anticipation are great but they take you away from what is happening NOW. The possibility is in the NOW! I start by getting quiet with me. I try to eliminate the chatter (remember your Inner Nazi?). I concentrate on being present and feeling myself in the moment. Where are my legs? Where am I? I look around and enjoy the moment. This works really well when you incorporate it into your daily routine.
Whether you meditate/pray or exercise or drink your coffee while looking at an amazing view, take a moment to center yourself. Begin your day by being present. Open your eyes and see where you are and enjoy the moment.