The story and mission behind Just.Be.Enough. is one of sharing, honesty, and commitment to celebrating who we are as individuals…full of high moments, low moments, and everything in between. The addition of the voices of many through Friday guest posts have enabled us to bond as a community, to share in each others’ joys and to hold virtual hands in times that challenge us. Today, we are honored to have a very special anonymous guest poster kicking off a series that is deeply personal, deeply emotional, and incredibly important.
There are times in life that we simply cannot even begin to describe, but this mom and woman is going to use her voice to try…well, to try describing a family situation that I cannot even begin to fathom in the hopes that her story can help someone else, somewhere.
This series will unravel over several weeks. We hope you will come back each Friday, to support and to reflect.
As parents, our jobs are thrown to us with no training, no manual whatsoever. We leave a hospital with a little human being and are responsible for keeping them alive, happy and thriving. We are expected to provide values and rules to help guide them to make sound decisions, to become good citizens and responsible adults until they move out into the world to start a life of their own.
Without a tool to measure your parenting success, how do you know if you’ve done all you can? Have you raised happy, honest, kind individuals? Are they successful as students? How do you know that you, as a parent, have been enough?
Let’s face it: Parenting is the hardest job in the world, and sometimes that answer is not as easy as “I just know.”
I’m not sure who came up with the saying, “I brought you into this world….and I can take you out.” My guess is that it was a parent of a teenager. I’m convinced that parenting a teen should become a category worthy of earning a Nobel Peace Prize, especially when your own child trumps that quote and takes matters into their own hands.
Following this introduction to this series, I will share my story of parenting a teen who tried to self-harm (I still cannot bear to say attempt suicide) and of the rarely talked about world of cutting.
I never thought I would be in this place, ever.
Yet I am.
If you are or have been in this situation, I write this to let you know that you are not alone.
That guilt can weigh heavy on your shoulders as you question every single decision you have ever made as a parent. I’m here to say: Don’t go there.
I say this from experience and that I myself had to be convinced that I should not go to that place of indecision, but to know — really know — that I did all I could possibly do, that I am a good parent and that, deep down, my child know this.
My parenting was indeed, enough.
Come back next week, please…to find follow this amazing mom and family on their journey.