“How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate our heroes and she-roes!”
Maya Angelou, African American poet
Raising boys is a constant struggle between the feminine and masculine parts of myself. If you have been around here long enough that you probably know I am a very girly girl, complete with the trappings of femininity. What you might not know is that my minor in college was Women’s Studies and that underneath the sparkly shirts, high heels and love of all things covered in glitter, baubles or sprinkles beats the heart of a true feminist.
I am happy and proud of my gender and I take every opportunity to sing the praises of women who are changing our world. I also know that as a woman who is also a wife and mother I have a responsibility to teach my young sons about these incredible ladies who made an impact on their lives with their inventions, struggles, words and determination.
I walk a fine line with it, because I want my sons to grow up with a rich sense of who they are as men and to find pride and self respect in their own gender, but I also feel myself working hard to share the stories of women.
I am also happy that my sons are surrounded by a circle of strong, independent and successful women. They always have been. From the daycare teachers who teach them and hug their bad days away, to the aunts who are successful business women and a grandma who recently came out of retirement to go out into the workforce again yet is such delicate force in their lives. Just like I was, they are being raised in a family that values its matriarchs and looks to them as an example of care, comfort and career, even if that career is simply raising them to be generous citizens of our global community.
It makes me happy that my sons see me work and write, that they can witness me chasing my own dreams and pushing for the idea of other moms, wives and women like me to take flight.
The world I am trying to raise them in is one where men can be masculine but still feel with their hearts, where they can enjoy a baseball game as much as a Broadway musical; one where they have a true and ingrained reverence for all women and work to treat their female counterparts with admiration and true respect.
I will be a very proud mom and woman if my sons are thoughtful, considerate and empathetic young men just like their daddy. Men who can enjoy a hockey game and still believe in equality for the sexes.
Our family might be a village of men, but the girl of the house is still a hero in their eyes.
Today, March 1st, marks the beginning of Women’s History Month. While I think that women should be celebrated all year long I admit that I enjoy 31 days devoted to recognizing the strength, character and accomplishments of my sisters in history.









Absolutely lovely post! I have two boys and I struggle with this same balancing act. Above everything else I hope my boys are like you say “thoughtful, considerate and empathic”. thank you
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This is so awesome, Kir. I love that you see this as a conscious part of your parenting and your boys are so lucky to have you bring this to their lives.
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thank you Robin, that kind of compliment from YOU means the world to me. My only hope is that I can be the “Diane Keaton” of their lives.
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I was watching a documentary the other day about how hard it is to be a man these days. They can’t just be the big, macho men who save the day anymore. They have to be sensitive too. I think you sound like you’re doing a fantastic job! Hopefully I will feel as confident while raising my son.
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thank you for commenting, that means a lot to me.
I agree that women expect a lot from our men these days beyond the beer, football and various “white knight” scenarios. We want them to take on our causes and understand our inequality while they still take care of us. It’s why I wrote this post becuase Gio and Jacob will grow up in that mindset, trying to strike the balance of both. Just like you, I hope that I can keep the message clear and good as we all grow up together.
I know you’ll do an amazing job too!
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I hope to raise a boy like that. And I hope my daughter eventually marries a man like that.
And you have to know I LOVE the girly feminists. Embracing both sides is just a circle for me, showing we can be equal but better, because we get lip gloss. Kidding. Kind of.
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Kidding? No way girlfriend, we ARE better
I know that you are this kind of mom with me because you my friend are another half of my heart. I am so glad to call myself a mom alongside YOU.
plus if Abbey marries Gio or Jacob…;) xo
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Congrats on raising your boys to see women as equals. I often found myself reminding my own son that “girls are just as…”, which drives me absolutely nuts. Using the “just as” creates this horrible level of “goodness” with the men at the top and you are good if you are equal to them. So I stopped that language in its tracks and now point out all the strange ways that women are not treated equally, with very subtle questions that lead him to seeing what I want him to see without standing on my soapbox proclaiming injustices to him. It helps that the kid is about 5 times more empathetic and emotional than his mom.
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LOL, thank you for sharing this with me. Because honestly it’s easy to do it now, they are 4 and pliable, they listen and take it in, they can parrot it back. My real work will be when I want them to LIVE this, to show me they were listening. So reading this has helped me already in that the language I use to enforce it is just as important as the message. THANK YOU for that.
I know you are very empathetic my friend.

Kir recently posted..Proud Mommy Moments: Jenna from Made More Beautiful is Visiting Today
so glad that you are recognizing this important month!
Great as always! xo
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Well I am a WOMAN right?
thank you for coming over, it’s always so nice to see you. xo
Kir recently posted..Proud Mommy Moments: Jenna from Made More Beautiful is Visiting Today
Dear Kir, this world would definitely be a better place if only every son had a mother like you. It’s true! I really believe that as mothers, we set the first example of how men should view and treat a woman. And I don’t think you could’ve put it into better words than the ones you did here, sweet friend! Jacob and Gio are so, so lucky to have you as their mother. Their future girlfriends (and eventually wives) would be one heck of a lucky gal

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