One of the nice things about blogging, even after over two years, is that around every corner is a chance to meet new writers and voices. Laura Rossi Totten is one of the voices I feel lucky to have been introduced to, and today she is here, sharing her be enough story.
Laura is a blogger and a public relations expert. Her blog My So-Called Sensory Life: 365 Unexpected Gifts from Motherhood celebrates the daily gifts of motherhood.
As soon as I came home from the hospital, I quickly learned that there would never be enough of me to go around but that it was ok as long as I was doing my best for both children and showering them with love.
During the first few weeks at home, I amazed even myself with my feats of twin motherhood – I could feed both babies bottles at the same time (while pumping and rocking them), I could dance/sing/read and make dinner while pushing the double stroller in my kitchen, and I somehow found ways to give each baby one-on-one special Mommy time every single day.
As any mother of twins will tell you, the first few months (years!?) are a blur of diapers, feedings, sleepless nights, and many blissful moments. But it’s the lessons I learned when I first brought my son and daughter home that still give me the road map I need to navigate parenthood:
- Take Care of Me — even if it’s for only one precious minute
- There is Only So Much One Person Can Do in One Single Day
- Accept The Fact That You Can Always Do More — But that doesn’t mean you have to
- Being enough is a choice — one you may have to make many times a day
Short of cloning myself, there really isn’t a way to give J or M everything they need all the time — especially since our son has special needs. Add to this mix my husband’s needs and my own, well, all I can do to survive (and thrive) is to do my best, to love them all fiercely and to remember each day is a gift.
When I think about the incredible message of the “Just Be Enough” blog, it means that as a mom, wife, and woman everything I give to my family makes me more than enough.
Laura’s writing has been featured in many places including NPR’s WRNI-FM, Moonfrye.com, CircleofMoms.com, SheWrites.com, The Chronicle of Higher Education and more. Follow her on Twitter @BookPRGirl or visit www.LauraRossiPublicRelations.com.